Parents will naturally get frustrated when their child is doing poorly in class. Every parent wishes his child to prosper, but seeing his child fall behind academically can be quite disheartening. However, yelling at your child in the name of poor grades can have some long-reaching consequences. This blog will discuss how yelling fails to achieve its objectives; how it psychologically impacts children and alternative means suitable for dealing with academic issues.
The effects that yelling has on our children
Parents yell at their children in a bid to discipline or motivate them , without knowing , they are demoralizing them. Research says yelling creates an atmosphere of fear and anxiety for children. It does not encourage them to improve, it instills in them feelings of shame and resentment.
1. Fear rather than motivation:
Children sometimes fear making mistakes when they are yelled at for some disciplinary actions. That fear takes away any willingness to take risks in their learning process. Instead of trying harder, they could evade challenges altogether.
2. Damaged self-esteem:
Criticisms chip away at the child’s esteem. When a child becomes accustomed to hearing that they are not good enough, it will involve the structuring of a negative image of themselves not only for academics but for life too.
3. Heightened anxiety:
Shouting promotes heightened anxiety. They liken that which is being presented at school to the impossible, unreachable nature of schoolwork. This will ensure they become wary of their assigned schoolwork, as well as that under-performance cycle.
The long-term consequences
Yelling has far-reaching implications beyond the immediate response. Here are some possible long-term effects:
1. Poor academic performance:
Children subjected to frequent yelling will be poor academically, not only because of the emotional state but also for lack of support and encouragement from home.
2. Behavioural problems:
Shouting leads to behavioral disorders in children. They would react negatively in school or at home. This is probably to show their frustration and to seek attention.
3. Strained relationship: The relationship between the child and his parent will get damaged very much by this. The child will become psychologically away from his parents and thus not communicate with them nor trust them.
Healthier alternatives to yelling
Rather than shouting at them, what might help their child improve academics include:
1. Communication
Parents might establish in their child’s surroundings such an environment, encouraging him to share with parents when he is having troubles. He can be guided on questioning himself about opening about whatever is too tough for him and showing energetic support instead of judgmental behavior.
2. Real expectations
It is best to set a goal that is realistic; after all, each child learns at his/her own pace, and you together with your child would have to map learning difficulties and consider reasonable expectations in a very supportive atmosphere in which you can celebrate small victories.
3. Encourage a growth mindset:
Explain to the children that intelligence develops over time with effort or persistence. Let them see looking at something they can’t do as not an impossible thing but as a challenge to develop.
4. Be available for support resources:
Offer help with homework or point out additional help in the form of tutoring if needed. Your participation in your child’s education makes the child believe you believe he is worth the investment.
5. Practice good behavior:
Teach your child how to face problems in life. Let him hear stories of your experience when he had to confront the challenges you went through in your adulthood and how you got over them with diligence and hard work.
6. Be patient:
Change doesn’t happen overnight; it takes time.
Be patient with your child while he is figuring things out academically. Encourage, don’t criticize. Understand that improvement takes time. Be patient with your child as they navigate their academic journey, providing encouragement rather than criticism.
Please, don’t yell at your child for poor academics; it may appear to you that it’s an instant remedy, but it is undeniably the fastest route to nightmares for years to come with emotional and academic ramifications. Create an environment for your child to thrive academically filled with support, understanding, and open communication without falling back on negative behaviours like yelling. Parenting is not merely about pointing out a mistake; it is about supporting your child through challenges with love and patience. Take this journey together, and see your child evolve into a competent learner eager to succeed.
When your child struggles with schoolwork, it must be really annoying for you. There is an overwhelming temptation to shout at your child; is that not the easiest way to get their attention and make them put in a little more effort? However, yelling like this can do far more harm than good. It becomes an explicit teaching by example of a way of expressing anger. So your kid can develop emotional issues leading to low academic performance that would last for several more years. Instead of shouting, let us discuss how to create a positive atmosphere for your child to flourish.At Delhi Public School (DPS) Warangal, we understand that the academic problems are not just one-dimensional. Instead of working just towards the attainment of certain grades or ranks, we believe in creating an atmosphere that is innovative in itself. Through a change in strategy from intimidation to compassion, we foster resilience, confidence and will for knowledge in our students. Students should be guided through their hardships not so that they only become good students but also great individuals who are willing to learn throughout their lives.